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Tere — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:28:46 -0000

I think it's great that you're going to see her. Even with all the questions and unknown, that you can be in her life and have a relationship with her forever family is great.

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ghostlove — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:36:37 -0000

That sounds ridiculous on their part, and heartbreaking for you. Did they ever give you a reason for taking her away from you? I can't even imagine how hard that was, and you are so brave to talk about it like this. I think I'd break down every time I even thought about it. *hug*

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CJ — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 10:36:47 -0000

Let's just say the agency isn't the smartest around. And karma is a bitch!

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CJ — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 10:36:04 -0000

Her adoptive mom contacted me after finding the T21 Traveling Afghan Project. Talk about the ties that bind in the Down syndrome community!!

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CJ — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 10:34:59 -0000

Yes, she was removed from me, placed in foster care and then in her final adoptive home. During the time between our home and her adoptive home she went from a developemental age of almost two years old to a functioning level of six months. Yet the agency said removing her from my home caused "no disruptive harm to the child." She stopped crawling, stopped signing and speaking..stopped feeding herself. She also developed a number of fears. Yet there was no negative effect to her removal, in their formal opinion. Great agency, heh?

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Debra Serrins — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 09:23:28 -0000

Wow. I simply couldn't imagine what that experience would be like. And I don't know the whole story of course but it's hard to believe that anyone thought that would be good for the baby. That she would grow and trust by being taken away from you. Stupid...

Still, it's wonderful that you're going to get to go visit her and the adoptive family. I wish you a wonderful and healing visit.

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Amber — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:37:45 -0000

I'm so glad that you were contacted, and that you are going to see her. I'm thinking very good thoughts for all of you.

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Heather — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:01:34 -0000

:-( I can't even fathom the pain you went through. Amazing that you'll get to wrap her in hugs soon.

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ghostlove — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:06:10 -0000

I was under the impression she'd gone back to her birth parents. It seems she was taken from you and placed with another adoptive family? Why on earth would they do that?! :o(

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Allison — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 18:44:32 -0000

Wow. You've been through the fire a time or two, huh? I hope this is experience is wonderful -- I suspect it will be. Best wishes.

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sara p — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:49:23 -0000

wow. what emotions you have been and are going through, thanks for sharing this with all of us:) all i can think is how lucky you are to be able to still be apart of her life. i can even imagine a child be ripped out of my arms like that. make sure to take lots of pictures when you see her:)

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Mere — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:43:32 -0000

Wow. So sad, yet so encouraging. I cannot even imagine what you went through - bless your heart. But how very happy that you are able to be a part of her life. You'll all have a wonderful time on your trip.

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Tracy — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:42:16 -0000

What a precious gift you are getting to see her again!

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CarrieJo79 — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:33:53 -0000

Yeah, this made me cry too. I'm so happy she ended in the home of such a wonderful family who opened their arms to you. I'm sure that made it just a tiny bit easier to heal from the pain. I can imagine how scary this visit is, but your attitude is amazing. I know you will tell all about the visit when you return and I look forward to reading every word of it!

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CarrieJo79 — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:32:19 -0000

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Bulldogma — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:18:38 -0000

I've been so stressed out and I really needed a good cry!! I don't know how you made it through... I can feel your emotion as the van drove off with her... completely unaware that she wouldn't be coming home to your loving arms. It would have broken me, and yes... I guess eventually it would have made me stronger. The laws need to be changed. The way they did this to the both of you makes me so mad!! Why couldn't they have done a more gradual separation? I suppose they worry that it would give the parent the chance to run away with the child, but they need to consider how harsh this was for the baby as well as the mommy... and the brother who can't possibly understand why such a thing would happen. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'm happy you are going to be able to reconnect with this precious child.

It's funny - at first I couldn't imagine life with a child with Down syndrome, but those feelings were short-lived. Now I can not imagine life without my extraordinary, wonderful child who happens to be chromosomally enhanced!! My heart goes out to you, and I hope the reunion is more wonderful than you could ever have expected!!

((HUGS))

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CJ — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 15:18:00 -0000

You were the first person I called after I talked to her birth parents. I am amazed you were able to understand a word coming out of my mouth. She is in a great family and she is doing so well and she is so loved. I'm just grateful I am still able to be a part of her life!

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CJ — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 15:13:42 -0000

They are amazing people and I am so grateful they have opened their arms to us. Baby J is one lucky little girl!

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2momswithaplan — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 15:06:42 -0000

Ok you have me crying over here...

I will be thinking of you and your family as you make your way to see the daughter you still hold in your heart. I think its amazing that her adoptive family has allowed you into her life.

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amyflege — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:37:14 -0000

I remember that day so clearly when you called me.... something i will never forget and till this day cant imagine going through what you went through. That agency had NO idea what they were doing.. taking her away from such a strong, wonderful mommy. I guess for some reason it was not meant to be as hard as that is. She is in a good place now and loved. but I think she will always have a place in her heart just for her you, I am sure of it!!
love ya!